Blind Spots – Uncovered

SMF: What are some of the common blind spots plaguing singles dating today?

Bari: Blind spots are hidden from our view and can keep us from our happiness. A few examples of blind spots is when a single person says he or she wants to get married, but does not date. Or if the person is dating but is being negative or cynical about the process. Blind spots often manifest as the gap between what a person says he or she wants and what he or she is (or is not) doing to achieve their goal.

Another blind spot is looking only at external and superficial elements when dating – evaluating a potential match based only on looks, income level or status – instead of the elements that make great marriages: an emotional bond, admiration, shared vision, values and goals. Many singles describe the kind of person they want to meet but are not “being” that way when dating. For example, saying they want to meet someone warm, kind, and compassionate, but when dating instead of “being” warm kind, and compassionate they are “being” the opposite: doubtful, negative or cynical. Many singles don’t realize that they just need to meet one wonderful, matching person who is right for them to share their life with and they don’t need a lot of second dates to achieve that. They should not compare themselves and their needs to those of anyone else.

About Bari Lyman

As a successful business owner, Bari was used to two things: helping people and being successful. With her staffing company BreakthroughIT, Bari played career matchmaker by helping people find the perfect company fit for their professional aspirations. But despite her business success, she felt discontent when it came to romance. The product of a lonely childhood as well as unfulfilling relationships, she felt incapable of attracting the right man. Not a woman to give up easily, she began a journey to discover her own relationship blockages and blind spots—and conquer them. Her personal transformation into a confident, purposeful dater who knew exactly what she was looking for in a partner—to feel cherished, experience unconditional love and find true partnership—led her to finding Michael. Married in August of 2004, they now share a fulfilling and joyful marriage, and Bari has brought similar breakthroughs to scores of other marriage-minded singles. Bari created the Meet to Marry program based on techniques and lessons learned from a lifetime of personal growth as well as intense study of relationship wisdom and strategies from experts in the field. With over a decade of experience coaching singles in marriage readiness, she is now bringing the revolutionary Meet to Marry program to even more people looking for genuine love. For more about Bari:
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