SMF: How does a person gain control over his thoughts and power over his destiny?
Bari: With new awareness, any single can choose a new and powerful reality. By choosing to be real and authentic, to love themselves by embracing their own uniqueness, any single can change his or her destiny. It’s important to understand that we can choose our thoughts to create a powerful and empowering reality. By taking a step back and acting as an observer of ourselves we can challenge our own thinking, especially when our thoughts are disempowering. We need to recognize that feelings aren’t facts but rather facts are facts. We need to learn to challenge our negative thoughts and replace them with empowering conversations. The same way we can observe our friends’ blind spots and give advice as observers, a person can choose to view himself or herself objectively by looking at our own patterns and asking the questions: How am I creating this reality over and over again? Why do I attract the people I attract? Is there something I may be thinking unconsciously that may be sabotaging my dreams? Is there something I need to learn from the people I attract? When we ask these questions with a beginner’s mind, we can have an “ah ha” moment to create a new awareness that will get us powerfully into action, and also into reality. When we are in the comfort zone, we are not growing. And as human beings, we need to grow and stretch and learn in order to reach our potential.