Honoring Needs


SMF: How did honoring your “top emotional needs” and not compromising on your personal “values” help to attract your husband?   

Bari: Honoring my own emotional needs allowed me to be true to myself and to date with confidence and clarity. Before I understood what my top emotional needs were, dating was mysterious, leaving me to choose dates based only on interests and chemical attraction. Once I understood what my top emotional needs were, I was able to attract someone who could meet those needs. By finally knowing myself and giving serious thought to how I wanted to live and the future I wanted to create, I began to honor myself and my vision for the future so I could find someone who shared that vision. When I gained clarity and trust in myself, it became clear to me when someone had the potential to be a match and when they didn’t. Through the process of becoming true to myself and asking the important questions (that in the past I hadn’t considered) – what do I truly want and need in a relationship; how do I want to feel in a relationship; how do I want to live; what kind of family and spiritual life do I want – I was able to attract someone who shared my vision, someone with whom I shared mutual admiration and vision for a lifetime of partnership.

About Bari Lyman

As a successful business owner, Bari was used to two things: helping people and being successful. With her staffing company BreakthroughIT, Bari played career matchmaker by helping people find the perfect company fit for their professional aspirations. But despite her business success, she felt discontent when it came to romance. The product of a lonely childhood as well as unfulfilling relationships, she felt incapable of attracting the right man. Not a woman to give up easily, she began a journey to discover her own relationship blockages and blind spots—and conquer them. Her personal transformation into a confident, purposeful dater who knew exactly what she was looking for in a partner—to feel cherished, experience unconditional love and find true partnership—led her to finding Michael. Married in August of 2004, they now share a fulfilling and joyful marriage, and Bari has brought similar breakthroughs to scores of other marriage-minded singles. Bari created the Meet to Marry program based on techniques and lessons learned from a lifetime of personal growth as well as intense study of relationship wisdom and strategies from experts in the field. With over a decade of experience coaching singles in marriage readiness, she is now bringing the revolutionary Meet to Marry program to even more people looking for genuine love. For more about Bari: MeettoMarry.com
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