SMF: Is touch fundamental to intimacy or does it just enhance a couple’s closeness?
Matt: Intimacy is the experience of being emotionally and spiritually close with someone, and it does not have to be physical. Touch does enhance a couple’s closeness in a very powerful way, but only if done in the right way. An intimate moment can turn sour very fast, especially when physical touch is involved, if intentions are off. When done in the right way, touch can take a very special, beautiful, intimate moment and take it to places that no words ever could.
That’s why Intentioned Touch is so important. Our intention during these close physical experiences can make all the difference. Intimacy without physical contact can also be extremely powerful, but it is much easier to keep emotions under control and intentions in line. In other words, when we are in an intimate but non-physical moment with someone, the source and reasons for our thoughts and emotions tend to be clearer to us. That gives us the ability to control ourselves much better, physically, emotionally, and mentally. When touch is involved, things can get out of hand really fast. We have the ability to do and say things we would never have wanted to because the feelings were so strong. Touch has that power. We should be aware of it and be prepared to use it in a positive, productive, and loving way. Like any powerful tool, it can be used for good or bad. The more powerful the tool, the more it can destroy and the more productive and creative it can be.
Intentioned Touch teaches a couple how to use this tool in several ways. There are different types of touch that one can use to create different experiences. For example, the type of touch called blending or melding allows a complete unity of energies between two people. It’s like you don’t know which is me and which is you!! You intentionally allow yourself to lose yourself which ultimately allows you to get in touch with higher parts of yourself.
The following is a fantastic and easy exercise that would be good to practice before an Intentioned Touch session. One partner should sit comfortably on a chair. The other partner should stand behind them and place one hand on the top of their head and the other on their shoulder. It helps if both people close their eyes. The standing partner should be patient and do nothing. Eventually, the sitting person’s head will start moving on its own. Each person will feel that the other person is guiding them. In reality, it’s the inner wisdom of the sitting person guiding both people because of the love and safety they feel both on a conscious and subconscious level.
Practice this and it will start to raise your awareness of yourself and your partner. The beauty of an intimate moment is one of the greatest things in this world. Using Intentioned Touch will help take those moments to an even greater and more pleasurable level for you and you partner.